Posted by: austend | Wednesday, December 5, 2007

Biblical Masculinity & Femininity

Here are some thoughts based on Rick Holland’s first message (12-2-07) in his series on Biblical Masculinity:

“Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered.” (I Peter 3.7)

When the verse says that the woman is the weaker vessel, it is not highlighting the woman’s inferiority. Rather, it is pointing out that the wife is the husband’s finest piece of delicate china. She is not an aluminum pot that can be dropped on the floor without consequence (like a man). She is delicate, rare, fragile, and precious. Her worth is incalculable. The husband must take great pains to treat her thusly. He must protect her from rough treatment. He must treat her with the respect and care of his valued treasure.

“Women are not just like men. They are fundamentally different. You cannot treat a woman as you would treat a man.”

“When men act like women, masculinity is tarnished. Likewise, when men act like boys, masculinity is also tarnished.”

“Masculinity is defined as acting like a MAN, not a boy or a woman.”

Paul urges that believers act like MEN:

“Be watchful, stand firm in the faith, act like men, be strong.” (I Cor 16.13)

Paul also urges that men be self-controlled and sensible:

“Likewise, urge the young men to be sensible.” (Titus 2.6)

Being sensible is being sober-minded. Sober-minded means being serious.

“The boy must purpose to grow up.”

“The man must own his mistakes and seek forgiveness often. He must have plan for his life so that he’s not lazy or irresponsible. He must not be controlled by fear. He must take appropriate risks and control his fears. He must not be consumed with recreation. There’s nothing wrong with recreation, but when it becomes the passion of your life, then it’s a big problem. He must be joyful and decisive.”

He must prove himself a man in the following categories of decision making:

  • Spiritual Decisions (is he reading the Word and praying? What is he reading for pleasure? Is he theologically accurate? Is he involved in his church?)
  • Moral Decisions (is he morally pure?)
  • Responsibility Decisions (is he responsible and trustworthy?)
  • Vocational Decisions (is he lazy or does he have a tentative life plan?)
  • Time Decisions (how is his time management skills?)
  • Financial Decisions (is he a frivolous and wasteful spender?)
  • Future Decisions (is he wisely planning for the future?)
  • Attitude Decisions (what is his attitude like?)
  • Leadership Decisions (is he a leader or a follower?)
  • Relational Decisions (is he wise in his friendships?)


Find Rick’s sermons and more of his excellent series from Crossroads {here}.

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